I waited the cursory week to see if he'd ask me out again, and, hearing nothing, called it: We had mutually ghosted each other.
It felt like a very clean break for what had been an extremely casual fling. We'd never reached following-on-Instagram-level intimacy, which meant this ghost searched for my handle and made the very deliberate choice to watch my dumb story.
Have you ever wondered how much checking someone’s status updates/tweets/photo uploads is normal/harmless, and when does re-checking their online activity become problematic?
Most of us have caught ourselves clicking through someone’s social media activity because we have reason to be naturally curious about them- maybe the person is someone we want to meet, or just started dating and want to know more about them.
Other times we might scroll through our partner’s online activity as a way to check their daily mood, as counterintuitive as that may sound (since you likely see them or at least communicate with them regularly in person).
Today’s prolific use of social media gives us an alternative glimpse into our partner’s emotional status and social exchanges that we may not otherwise pick up on.
These little reminders can be incredibly disorienting — why do these dead relationships linger?
If communication is cut off everywhere else, why swirl around in your digital sphere?
You send her a message, and she responds, saying she wants to get to know you! But behind the guise of that sweet-sounding woman may actually be a man — a cybercriminal who only wants to get your phone number to scam you.We’re left wondering if they’re pining for their old relationship. Suddenly we’re starting arguments that undermine the health of our relationship. Findings from this study suggest that keeping tabs on an ex through social media is associated with poorer emotional recovery and personal growth following a breakup.Therefore, avoiding exposure to ex-partners, both ofﬂine and online, may be the best remedy for healing a broken heart.Even if someone’s online persona is carefully constructed for public consumption, having access to their online activity gives us an opportunity to interpret the meaning of their coming and goings, even their level of intimacy with others.If this person is an ex-romantic partner this may be all we have to go on- even if all we see is their profile picture and friend list, this information can still provide a rough approximation of their current situation.Last year, Russian police arrested two men from Smolensk who pretended to be young, attractive girls stealing the hearts of men in Moscow and then threatening and tricking them into sending large sums of money.