She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em? She’s done it all; dating sites, meeting guys at cons, the comic store, chatting up friends from class and at work.• The term “good in relationships” refers to men who are emotionally available, good communicators, hunger for emotional intimacy with their partner and know how to make a woman feel cherished. By definition, nice guys are missing the “seducer” gene; even if they knew how to “play the game,” their conscience would never allow them to sweet-talk and manipulate a woman for their own selfish interests.• Certainly, many beautiful women have found their soulmates. A woman turns to makeup and fashion to boost her self-esteem and make herself more desirable to men. He seemed interested, but now he’s looking the other way. Sometimes even the men who can are still shy about approaching you. It’s kind of like a little kid hoping their parents don’t realize they’re lying about who really broke the lamp. Sharing a few smiles across a crowded room is usually a good sign a guy is interested. The problem is, he doesn’t want you to know how afraid he is. All of these are ways for them to deal with feeling a little inferior to the hot girl they’ve approached. Did you just tell him about getting promoted at work? Odds are, an intimidated man suddenly comes up with an excuse to leave. Some guys just can’t handle a strong, independent woman. Why bother flirting with you if they don’t have the balls to ask you out? I guess when they find out you’re confident, have a career and aren’t going to take any BS, they feel a little intimidated. When a guy seems way too nervous, he’s feeling intimidated. Men who are intimidated by you might talk too loudly, stiffen their stance, push out their chest, fidget more than usual and just generally seem awkward and uncomfortable talking to you.Some may protest the use of stereotypes, but there is often enough truth in them to lightheartedly convey valuable insights.
You talk about a cool trip you took last weekend and he has to share one that’s even better. He’ll eventually embarrass the hell out of himself and his friends won’t let him live it down. Crystal Crowder Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger.We've been talking for a while, maybe even tried the dating thing, and for whatever reason, you feel the need to inform me (as if I didn't already know) that I'm intimidating.I applaud your honesty, but why are you telling me this?I'm not talking about the woman you're too scared to talk to.I'm talking about the woman that you dream of, finally find and chase down, but then are too afraid to date.He has to come up with something more impressive than anything you have to say. You know that little voice in the back of your mind that’s constantly analyzing every moment when you start flirting with a guy? Except when they feel intimidated, the little voice is so loud they can’t maintain a conversation. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style.