Dating men of any age presents its own unique set of challenges: In high school you get fumbling boys, confused about where to put their body parts in relation to yours, despite their over-eagerness for the proximity. If you manage to settle down with one in their thirties you'll still spend time tinkering with their training wheels, coaching them through their careers, mothering them, and turning them into the men they want to be.In their twenties men want to have as much sex with as many different women as possible. Of course in their forties and fifties all of that hard work will be undone in a blazing crisis of self that returns them squarely to stage one, armed this time with enough Viagra to pre-empt their premature excitement. You might be welcomed, but the moment you try to match with someone is the moment you feel a bit out of place. It’s a dating site used by millions and millions of people worldwide that features a paid, premium option for anyone wanting to take their search for a match more seriously. The older crowd may have noticed that using Tinder is like going to a college bar.For these reasons and others, my friend Megan O'Brien, a successful woman in her own right as the founder of the marketing agency Beauty Brander, almost exclusively dates men in their sixties and older.We recently attended a wedding in Palm Springs together, a fancy affair with pool parties, fireworks, and a ceremony at the Empire Polo Club where they host the Coachella music festival.More and more people on Ok Cupid (and other sites such as Plenty of Fish (POF)) use two different profiles.One profile contains great photos and little information, while the other contains great info and vague photos.
)As a woman over 30, I decided to try to get to the bottom of this conundrum by asking a series of straight, unmarried men in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s to find out why some actually prefer to date “older” women.
Should you automatically go dutch or expect her to pay? In fact, you want to impress someone, treat a lady with some bank to a nice meal, because she appreciates exactly how much it costs. So when you take her out with your friends or coworkers, be it to a wedding or work event, you don’t have to worry she’ll perish without your constant attention. Since she’s got a little life on her (and maybe even a marriage in her past), she may not have the rigid checklist that a younger girl has.
She’s been to enough of these things on her own to manage just fine while you’re talking to someone else. Most of the single women I know over 35 just want a good man, period.
Turns out, there’s lots to love about women of a certain age.
Men in their 20s date women over 30 because:“They understand better how to interact in a relationship.”Men in their 40s add:“Women over 30 have stopped putting metal through their lips and tongues which makes it easier to kiss them.